Later today one of my dearest friends will be walking down the aisle for the second time in her life. Rather than taking her new husband's last name, she has decided to reclaim her maiden name. She has two daughters, and has, up until now, kept her first husband's last name following their divorce - because she thought it might be important to her girls to share the same last name as their mother.
But one day her 10-year old told her that it made the most sense for her to go back to using her original last name after the wedding. Because, in her words, "Why should you have to change your last name? Why doesn't he?"
Her new awesome husband-to-be fully supports her decision and is even contemplating taking her last name as his middle name - a move women make all the time, but I don't think I personally know any men who have made the same move. No judgement here against women who choose to take the last names of their husbands, just one big high five to ALL women who give themselves the freedom to do what truly feels right for them, the men who support them no matter what that means, and all those budding little 10-year old feminists out there in the world.